Hustle + Heart Season 1: Why Expectations Hold You Back—And How Standards Set You Free
Let’s be real—how many times have you felt frustrated because someone didn’t meet your expectations? Whether it’s in business, relationships, or even your day-to-day interactions, unmet expectations can feel like a personal blow. But what if the problem isn’t the people—or the outcomes—but the very nature of expectations themselves?
In Episode 10 of the podcast, we’re shifting the lens and breaking down a powerful mindset shift: replacing expectations with empowering personal standards. This small but mighty reframe has the potential to change the way you move through life and business.
Expectations vs. Standards: What’s the Difference?
Expectations are about others. They’re assumptions or hopes that someone or something will act a certain way. Often unspoken and unrealistic, they leave us waiting, hoping—and ultimately, disappointed.
Standards, on the other hand, are about you. They’re the foundation of how you choose to show up in the world. Your standards reflect your values, boundaries, and self-respect. And here’s the game-changer: when you live by high standards, you attract aligned people and opportunities—without needing to expect anything from anyone.
Why Expectations Set You Up for Disappointment
Expectations create pressure. They’re often tied to control, and when people inevitably fall short of them (because they can’t read your mind or match your internal story), you’re left feeling unfulfilled or even resentful. In business, this can stall your leadership. In life, it can erode relationships.
Letting go of expectations isn’t about lowering your bar—it’s about shifting your power back to YOU.
The Freedom in Setting High Personal Standards
When you hold yourself to high standards:
You stop outsourcing your worth to others.
You model the kind of energy you want to attract.
You become grounded in your values, not swayed by outcomes.
Standards create boundaries that protect your time, energy, and goals. They help you make decisions faster, communicate more clearly, and show up with confidence and clarity. And yes, this applies whether you’re navigating client relationships, romantic partnerships, or the inner dialogue in your own head.
Shift Your Mindset, Shift Your Life
Instead of:
“They should know better” → Try: “What standard do I have for communication?”
“I expected more from them” → Ask: “What boundary did I not reinforce?”
“Why don’t they see my value?” → Reflect: “Am I honoring my own value first?”
When you lead with your standards, you build a life aligned with your deepest values. You stop waiting—and start creating.
Action Steps to Elevate Your Standards
Here are a few ways to begin redefining your standards today:
Audit your current expectations – Where are you hoping someone else will validate, rescue, or prove something to you?
Define your non-negotiables – In business, life, and relationships. What behaviors, environments, and communication styles will you allow?
Enforce boundaries lovingly – Boundaries are not walls—they’re bridges to more empowered interactions.
Practice self-honoring habits – Show up for yourself. Keep your promises. That’s how you embody high standards daily.
Release control over outcomes – Trust that when you live in alignment with your standards, the right opportunities and people will align.
Final Thoughts: You Set the Vibe
Living by expectations makes you reactive. Living by standards makes you magnetic.
If you’re ready to stop waiting for others to “get it” and start living in full alignment with your purpose, this episode is your permission slip. Tune in, take notes, and start building a life that reflects the you you were always meant to be.
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